That’s Acceptance

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New Thinking

I have a long list of the new ideas that have become a part of my life and perception. Ideas that influence the way that I choose to live. In my awareness of moving away from “normal” paths in society and the anxieties I found there, I want to bring these ideas with me. They are both positive and negative. They are not original, but they are ideas that I put into my awareness. Some of these thoughts are obvious. Some of them aren’t so obvious. I am, though, pretty grounded in all of them.

I’m certain that these ideas hold some version of reality. The world will never be what I wish it to be. Life will not hold consistency and comfort. Is this cynical? I guess it could be taken that way, but to me it sounds awesome. I might believe in fairies 😀 but I don’t believe in wishing my life away. 

Spending time hoping for all of the things that I once thought made life easier like physical beauty, money, status, and just to be noticed, now seems unnecessary. These things seem like someone else’s wishes. Pursuing them gets me nowhere. Any physical beauty I have won’t bring kind and authentic people into my life. Neither will money or status. Being noticed? That kind of validation is very fickle. It leads to false ego and an addiction to all of life’s “like” buttons.

Most humans have issues keeping their desire to be better than others in check. I’m no exception. I’m just grateful to be aware that trying to live a life trying to be better than others affects my ability to live as a whole person. It gets in the way of the way of getting what I want in my life.

So, what is on this list? What are the ideas that I’ve adopted that are lighting up my life?  Here are just 20 of them:

• Society won’t and doesn’t seem able to accept anyone for who they really are and especially for who they want to be.
• Social media is just a faster, more extreme reflection of society.
• The only person who can pursue and realize what I want is me.
• Manipulation for perceived personal gain causes a lot of unnecessary hurt.
• I am and always have been a whole person.
• My emotions are clues to what I need to be aware of and learn.
• Trauma has to be worked through. It can’t be gotten over.
• History can never actually be repeated. If it seems that way, then we didn’t learn from it.
• Living in the past might be easy, but living in the present is where I’m free.
• Living in the future means I miss everything.
• My perspective shapes how I treat people. My empathy is that treatment.
• I will always feel love for those I love no matter what. There is no such thing as falling in and out of love. 
• It isn’t always possible to stay connected to people I love.
• My passions are not hobbies. They are the expressions of my life.
• Working to live is necessary. Living to work is not.
• How others see me is their perspective. How I see them is my accountability.
• I don’t owe the world anything, but I owe the people in it my respect.
• What happens in the future and after this life is a mystery. But I have the power to make this life a magical mystery tour.
• I have one life and I will fit as much into it as I can.
• If I achieve nothing more than showing those that I connect with kindness, the life I live will be my best life.

Acceptance

These ideas provide pieces of my matrix that guide me. Without society’s framework, I can create a foundation made up of what works for my life. Never ignoring my emotions, my passions, or my need to learn, I’ll build a matrix that will strengthen my connection to this world. 

The wonderful world I’m in will grow and change. Accepting my changing and challenging universe means knowing it will never truly disappoint. There’s more than enough love out there.

What ideas do you have?